Our team has compiled over 100 comforting messages from assisting customers at our Keepsakes Etc Store. We have organized them into 15 themes to help you find the perfect words.
Additionally, we have added some real-life examples of messages people have shared with us.
Table of Contents
- What You Should Know
- Types Of Messages:
- Messages For:
- Real-Life Examples
- How to Write Condolences
- Cultures and Religions
- Condolence FAQs
What You Should Know
Expressing Condolences This can help reduce the stress and isolation that grieving people experience.
Grief Journey
Share Genuine Compassion There is no adequate one-size solution for such deeply personal grief.
Palliative Care Board
Respect Cultural & Religion Generic messages do not consider cultural or religious beliefs.
ASCO
Less Can Mean More – Concentrate on listening carefully and compassionately.
Better Health
Share a Specific Memory Include the deceased’s likes and dislikes, habits, and even faults — can help people work through grief.
Maryville University
Offer Your Support Research shows that people can recover from loss independently with time if they have social support and healthy habits.
APA
Distinguish Grief from Trauma Grief may need comfort, while trauma often requires treatment.
Wiley Online Library
Types Of Condolence Messages:
Short Condolence
► You and your family are in my prayers.
► I’m so sorry for your loss.
► My heart goes out to you at this difficult time.
► Sending love and peace.
► May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.
► Forever remembered, forever missed.
► My Condolences.
► I’m with you during this difficult time.
► Thinking of you during this difficult time.
► AI GENERATED: May your loved one’s memory bring comfort and peace.
Religious Condolence
It can be difficult to find solace and comfort during grief and sadness. However, these messages of faith and love are written to give you hope and support. May these words offer comfort and strength as you navigate this difficult time.
► May the Lord comfort you with sweet memories and His perfect peace.
► We’ll pray for God’s strength and comfort for you and your family in the coming days. Love and prayers.
► In this time of loss, may you feel the presence of God’s love and know that He is always with you.
► May God’s grace comfort you and strengthen you in this difficult time.
► With heartfelt sympathy and a prayer for comfort, may you find peace in the arms of our loving Lord.
► May the Lord bless you with His peace and love during this time of sorrow.
► We are praying for peace and comfort in this time of need. May God Bless the family.
► My heart is truly broken and saddened, but [Deceased’s Name] has earned his/her crown. I can envision her humbly worshipping at Jesus’ feet.
► Thanking God for giving him/her to you for as long as he did and saying one day, you will see each other again.
► AI GENERATED: Though your heart is heavy, may you find light in God’s eternal promises. I pray the Holy Spirit eases your sorrow and cushions you in comfort. Your loved one rests safely now in the Father’s loving arms.
Rest In Peace
Rest in peace is frequently used in traditional Christian services and prayers. Following are several options to rest in peace that you may select.
► R.I.P.
► Sleep in Peace!
► May [Deceased’s Name] rest in eternal peace.
► Rest well, MaMa; see you again one day.
► May her soul rest in Heaven.
► Rest in Heavenly Peace
► Take your rest.
► Sleep In Heaven’s Glory.
► Rest in Paradise/Heaven
► AI GENERATED: May [Deceased’s Name] find everlasting peace. Their kindness touched the hearts of many, and I hope the cherished memories bring solace. You are in my thoughts as you navigate through this challenging period.
From the Bible
◄ Titus 1:2 ► In the hope of eternal life, which God, who does not lie, promised before the beginning of time.
◄ John 14:2 ► In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.
◄ Psalm 116:15 ► In the sight of the LORD, the death of his faithful ones is valued.
◄ Revelation 21.4 ► And God shall wipe away tears from their eyes, and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain; for the former things are passed away.
◄ Deuteronomy 1:31 ► and in the wilderness. There you saw how the Lord Your God Carried You, as a father carries his son, all the way you went until you reached this place.
◄ Acts 24:15 ► And have hope toward God, which they themselves also allow, that there shall be a resurrection of the dead, both of the just and unjust.
◄ 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 ► Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father… comfort you and strengthen you in every good thing you do and say. ..
◄ 1 Peter 5:7 ► Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
AI GENERATED: ◄ John 14:27 ► Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
For Sympathy Cards
Sending a sympathy card is a thoughtful gesture, especially when you’re close to someone who is grieving. It shows that you’re thinking of them and offering your support during a difficult time.
A handwritten condolence message adds a personal touch that a simple text or email can’t convey. The act of physically writing your feelings down demonstrates the time and care you’ve put into expressing your condolences.
The following sample messages can help you develop your own comforting words of condolence:
► Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.
► We are deeply saddened to hear of the passing of this wonderful lady and angel.
► Our deepest sympathies to you and your family during this difficult time.
► May fond memories bring peace, support, and strength today and always.
► Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts.
► We don’t know how to heal your pain, but we wish we could. Our most sincere condolences.
► I cannot put my sorrow at [Deceased’s Name] passing into words. My prayers and love go out to his family and friends at this most painful and challenging time.
► We hope you find peace and solace in your time of need. We pray that the days ahead bring you peace and comfort.
► [Deceased’s Name] will be forever missed.
► AI GENERATED: May the love of your [husband/wife/partner] bring you comfort during this difficult time. They were such a kind and caring person, and they will be deeply missed by all who knew them.
For Text Messages
► Sending healing prayers and comforting hugs.
► I just wanted to send some love your way after hearing about your loss.
► Hold tight to memories for comfort, lean on your friends and family for strength, and always remember how much you are loved.
► I heard about your Dad passing—my sincere condolences.
► So sorry to hear that our old friend is gone. I will never forget his/her great heart.
► Your [Mom/Dad] was a very kind and formidable [woman/man] who will be sorely missed.
► My deepest sympathies go out to you all and your families.
► I feel privileged and fortunate to have known your Mother. I will miss her terribly.
► Your cousin was a kind soul. Our world has lost a good one.
► AI GENERATED: Thinking of you and sending love during this difficult time. Your mom was so kind-hearted and will be truly missed. Please let me know if there’s anything at all I can do for you and your family. I’m here for you if you need an ear or shoulder during your grief.
In Person Messages
Caring words of comfort will help with the loss of a loved one. Remember to listen well when visiting family members at the funeral home. The following are some short condolence messages to help start the conversation.
► I’m so sad your dad passed. He was the best – wise, kind, generous. I’m here for anything you need right now.
► Your mom lit up every room with her smile. I’ll really miss her and so will our community. Let me know how I can help.
► Your brother could always crack me up. I’ll cherish those memories of laughter. Wishing you peace during this tough time.
► Your grandma inspired us all with her compassion. She’ll stay in our hearts. Sending you strength as you grieve.
► Your husband fully embraced life. My deepest sympathies to you and the kids. Here for you.
► Your sister radiated joy everywhere she went. May the happy times bring you comfort.
► Please accept our sincerest condolences. We’re here for whatever you need after losing your son.
► Your wife lived life to the fullest. My heart breaks that she’s gone too soon. Her spirit lives on.
► Your best friend lit up every room he entered. I wish you moments of peace as you mourn.
► AI GENERATED: I’m deeply sorry for your loss. [Deceased’s name] was such a wonderful person, and their memory will always be cherished. Please don’t hesitate to ask if there’s anything I can do to support you during this time. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Condolence Messages For:
Loss of Mother
► Please accept my sincere sympathy for the loss of your Mother. I admired her and remember her as a kind, thoughtful friend. May God Bless her and comfort you and your family at this difficult time.
► My deepest condolences. Your Mom will live forever in our memories as they bring a smile to our faces. May GOD bless you and your family in this challenging time, but rest assured she is in HIS caring hands forever.
► [Deceased’s Name] was a mother to many beyond her children, including me. She was the kindest person I know. The Lord has been glorified with her life. May the Lord’s grace be sufficient for the family as they grieve and adjust to life in her absence—grace to the family.
► [Deceased’s Name] lived a life that would have been pleasing to God. May your Mother rest in peace with her Heavenly Father. Peace, Strength, and Love …
► What a remarkable life your Mother lived – so full of Love. I will truly miss her. Her values, life lessons, hopes, and dreams became a part of our family. [Deceased’s Name] made a difference in so many lives. I cherish our memories together. Praying that the Legacy of love she left in this world will give you strength and comfort you in God’s Grace.
► A loving and caring Mother has left us. With heavy hearts, we bid you goodbye. Thank you for the smiles. Thank you for praying. Thank you for life. Rest in Jesus.
► To the family: I send my deepest condolences for your Mother’s passing. Our mothers are with us always. I pray that your heart and soul will find peace and comfort during this difficult time. Your friend in Christ
► While you make the mournful journey forward, cherish the beautiful memories of your Mother and do not let regret rule the day, for it is God’s sovereignty that we must trust and embrace to find understanding and value in our lives. May the peace of God abide with you in this time of great hardship.
► Mom, The Faith that you had is just simply amazing. I couldn’t ask God for anything more. He gave me the perfect mother! May you continue to rest in paradise.
► AI GENERATED: There are no words that can fill the void left by such an incredible mother, friend, and light in our lives. Your mother embodied kindness, wisdom, and love. Her warm smile could brighten any room. While my heart grieves with you, I hope the cherished memories we all carry can bring some comfort. She lived a life of meaning that touched so many. When you miss her smile or laughter, know that it echoes here among us, her extended family. Wishing you moments of peace and the serenity of beautiful memories in the difficult days ahead. She will remain in our hearts forever.
Loss of Father
► The life lessons your Dad taught will always remain. These are the gifts he gave to you.
► Your Dad was an exceptional man and a good friend. My sincere condolences.
► My deepest condolence. Your Father was a “Family Man” in every sense. My heart is aching for your loss.
► My condolences on the death of your Father. He was a fantastic teacher and the students loved and respected him. We will pray for your family.
► Our deepest condolences. Your Dad will watch over you throughout your life. What a wonderful neighbor and friend. We are praying for you.
► We’re thinking of you in your hour of grief. May you always feel your Dad’s presence in your heart. May he Rest In Peace.
► Your Dad was so caring a special. All the Kids enjoyed it when he would play baseball with us. God bless you and comfort you.
► [Deceased’s Name], we are deeply sorrowed by the passing of your Father. I know how much you loved him. He will be sadly missed by everyone who knows him. May his soul rest in peace.
I► worked with your Father for over 40 years. Everybody at the plant loved him and missed him when he retired. We share your sorrow for the loss of your Dad. God bless your family.
► AI GENERATED: There are some who pass through this life leaving small footprints, but your father left massive imprints on the hearts of everyone who knew him. He taught us so much about hard work, family, and living life to the fullest. Your dad was truly one-of-a-kind – always quick with a joke or sage advice. His wisdom and spirit will echo through the years. When you catch yourself chuckling at a fond memory, know that he smiles with you. Though the grief feels immense today, may all the happiness he brought provide comfort in the days ahead. Your father’s love lives on in you. Please let me know if I can offer an ear during this difficult time.
Loss of a Child
► [Deceased’s Name] was such a kind child. His/her smile could light up the room. I offer my deepest condolences to his family and friends. – Rest in Peace, Dear [Deceased’s Name]
► [Child’s Name] had such a great bond with his mother. [Name] loved his mama and she adored him. [Name] fun-loving nature and darling little boy’s face will be missed! May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him. Romans 15:13
► We pray that the Holy Spirit will sustain you as you long for and greatly miss your son/daughter. “There is no foot too small that it cannot leave an impression on this world” – We love you.
► I taught [Child’s Name] in the 4th grade. I will never forget your daughter/son. What a delight to be around such a precious child. My heart broke when I heard the news of her/his passing. My family and I are praying for you.
► I am so sorry for losing little [DeceaChild’s Name]. May he/she revel in the serenity of heaven now that their struggle here is over. We love you.
► I never had the opportunity to meet [Deceased’s Name]. However, hearing how great of a kid he was, it felt like no one had anything bad to say about him. Praying for his family and friends during this sad time.
► [Child’s Name] responded to God’s call. He/She was on loan for two months on earth and his/her mission has been accomplished. [Name] will be a precious angel, surrounded by love, without pain.
► We loved every minute with dear, sweet, courageous [Deceased’s Name]. I am so grateful for the time we had and his spirit of peace and tranquility will live on. Love Grandma & Grandpa
► [Deceased’s Name], I am mourning for you and all the memories I will not get to create with you. My heart aches for your Mom, Dad, and for YOU. You will always be loved and remembered.
► AI GENERATED: My heart shatters imagining the depth of your grief over the loss of your precious child. No words can ease such profound sorrow, but please know you are surrounded by love. Your child sparkled – their smile, their laugh, the joy they brought to this world in their short life. When memories bring tears, I hope they also bring comfort, knowing how deeply this darling soul was cherished.
Loss of Spouse
Losing a spouse can be overwhelming, whether the death is unexpected or following a long illness. One day the person is married; the next day single, alone, and grieving. Your words of sorrow will be comforting.
► I am fortunate to have known your Husband. May [Deceased’s Name] life inspire all of us to do more good with our own.
► We thought [Spouse’s Name] could stay a little longer with you, but God decided it was time for them to come home and rest.
► Though your heart must hold sorrow at the loss of the loved one, may it also hold the blessings of the life you shared and the love that will forever be a part of you.
► Very sad to hear the news of your Wife/Husband’s passing. We have fond memories of a lovely neighbor. Our heartfelt sympathies to the family.
► Let the memory of [Deceased’s Name] be with us forever. The two of you had an incredible life together.
► A very kind and formidable woman who will be sorely missed. She was very good to me and I will never forget her.
► Very sad to hear the news of your Wife/Husband’s passing. We have fond memories of a lovely neighbor. Our heartfelt sympathies to the family.
► So sorry to hear about the passing of [Deceased’s Name]. We have great memories of his good times with you and [Name]. You made such a fabulous couple.
► We are not just mourning your Husband/Wife, but celebrating their life for He/She was our hero.
► AI GENERATED: [Deceased’s name] was a truly remarkable person, and I know how much they meant to you. I will always remember their kindness, their sense of humor, and their deep love for you. The two of you were such a wonderful couple, and it is clear that your love for each other was unbreakable.
Loss of Grandmother
► Your Grandmother affected so many lives for the good.
► Grandma leaves a trail of beautiful memories.
► Thinking of you and hoping her memories bring you comfort.
► You can tell by the tears left behind what a wonderful person she was.
► May you find strength in the support from all who care and hope in each new day.
► With Sympathy for the loss of your Grandmother.
► May your memories of Grandma be the beautiful gift that helps you heal.
► With deepest sympathy at this sad time. May your Grandmother Rest in Peace.
► Your grandmother’s love and wisdom will always be cherished, and her memory will live on in the hearts of all who knew her. If there’s anything I can do to support you during this time, please don’t hesitate to ask.
► AI GENERATED: Your grandmother was a truly remarkable woman. She was always so kind and loving, and she had a way of making everyone feel welcome and appreciated. I will always remember her warm smile and her infectious laugh. She radiated a light that touched the hearts of all who knew her.
Loss of Grandfather
► Hoping you’ll find comfort in the love and memories of your Grandfather.
► No words can take away the sorrow that you are feeling. May it provide comfort knowing that others care.
► Your Grandpa was dearly loved by all who knew him, and now he is dearly missed.
► Your Grandfather was such a charitable man. He was always lending a hand to others and reaching out when they were in need.
► I was so sorry to hear about your Grandfather’s passing. May he have eternal peace.
► May you find solace with the friends and family that surround you.
► For as long as you remember the beautiful times with Grandpa, his memory will remain in your heart.
► Your Grandfather was such a presence. He was fair, dignified, and had a great sense of humor. I truly enjoyed working for him and know that he will be greatly missed by all who knew him.
► Your grandfather was a true role model to me. He taught me the importance of hard work, kindness, and compassion. He also taught me how to live life to the fullest and to cherish the people I love.
► AI GENERATED: Your grandfather was such a special man. He was always so kind and supportive, and he had a way of making everyone feel loved and respected. I will always remember his wise words, his warm smile, and his twinkling eyes. May he rest in peace.
Condolences Real-Life Examples
The most meaningful condolence message is one that genuinely comes from the heart. It’s a sincere and deeply heartfelt expression of sympathy for the person who is grieving. It’s not a generic, lengthy, or overly embellished message that’s simply copied and pasted from the internet.
Some people will think that this is not an appropriate thing to be said at a funeral, but to each their own. When I was 29, with a 2-year-old and a 5-month-old, my 31-year-old husband was killed in a car accident.
I heard all the same bullshit that you hear at funerals (it’s gods plan, everything happens for a reason….all those unhelpful things), and honestly it just made me want to hide from everyone.
But then my best friend’s dad walked up to me, gave me a hug and said:
“Well this really sucks!”.It was the only thing I heard that day that didn’t have me running away from everyone.
Source: Quora Answer
Generic Isn’t Enough. Be specific.
Bad: “We should go out to coffee soon”
Good: “If you’re feeling up to it, how about Coffee on Thursday. We can talk about whatever you want. “
Source: Reddit
Words are overrated at a funeral. Your presence is the best gift you can give. Shock, sorrow and grief are heavy burdens to bear alone. Being surrounded by family and friends is a tremendous comfort. So, go and offer a hug and say you’re sorry for their loss. No profound words are necessary; they won’t be remembered. The most important part is to go. It will be appreciated. And it will be enough.
Source: Quora
The worst thing you can do is over-egg the pudding.
Source: Quora
Gushing, affected sentiment is inappropriate and cringe-making. On a pedantic grammatical level, it’s ‘condolence’, not ‘condolences’.
A gentle handshake, and “I’m sorry for your loss, please accept my condolence,” will suffice.
How to Write a Personal Condolence Message
Key elements to include:
Acknowledge the loss directly: Begin by stating your awareness of the recipient’s loss. Use the deceased’s name if you knew them.
Express your sympathy: Use phrases like “I am so sorry to hear about your loss” or “My heart goes out to you during this difficult time.”
Share a positive memory: If you have a fond memory of the deceased, share it briefly. This adds a personal touch and shows you cared.
Offer support: Let the recipient know you’re there for them if they need anything. Be specific if possible, offering to help with errands, meals, or childcare.
End with a compassionate closing: Use phrases like “With deepest sympathy,” “Thinking of you,” or “My thoughts and prayers are with you.”
Choosing the right words:
Instead of: “I’m sorry for your loss.”
Consider: “I was deeply saddened to hear about the passing of [deceased’s name].”
Instead of: “They’re in a better place now.”
Consider: “May the memories of [deceased’s name] bring you comfort.”
Instead of: “I know how you feel.”
Consider: “I can only imagine how difficult this must be.”
Additional tips:
Keep it brief and sincere: Condolence messages don’t need to be lengthy. Focus on conveying your heartfelt sympathy and support.
Be mindful of the recipient’s beliefs: Avoid religious expressions if you’re unsure of the recipient’s beliefs.
Handwrite your message if possible: A handwritten note adds a personal touch and shows you took the time to express your condolences thoughtfully.
Don’t be afraid to show emotion: It’s okay to express your sadness and grief, especially if you were close to the deceased or the bereaved.
Proofread carefully: Ensure your message is free of errors and conveys your intended meaning.
Remember, the most important thing is to express your sincere condolences and offer support to the bereaved. Your words can provide comfort and solace during a difficult time.
Condolence Messages Across Cultures and Religions
It’s important to remember that expressions of sympathy can vary significantly across different cultures and religions. Here are a few things to consider when writing a condolence message for someone from a specific background:
Religious Beliefs: If you know the recipient’s religious beliefs, you can incorporate appropriate expressions of faith. For example, you might offer prayers for the deceased’s soul or express your belief in an afterlife. However, if you’re unsure of their beliefs, it’s best to keep your message secular.
Cultural Norms: Some cultures may have specific customs or traditions surrounding death and mourning. Researching these customs can help you avoid saying anything inappropriate or offensive. For example, in some cultures, it’s considered taboo to mention the deceased’s name directly.
Language: If the recipient speaks a different language, consider including a phrase or two in their native tongue. This shows respect and demonstrates your effort to connect with them on a personal level.
Examples:
For a Jewish friend: “May their memory be a blessing.”
For a Muslim friend: “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un” (Indeed, to Allah we belong and to Allah we shall return).
For a Buddhist friend: “May they find peace and liberation.”
By being mindful of cultural and religious sensitivities, you can ensure that your condolence message is both respectful and comforting.
Condolence Message FAQs
Q: What if I didn’t know the deceased well? A: It’s still appropriate to express your sympathy for the bereaved. Keep your message brief, focusing on your support for the recipient. For example, “I was so sorry to hear about the loss of [deceased’s name]. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.”
Q: Is it okay to send a condolence message via text or email? A: While a handwritten note is generally preferred, a text or email is acceptable if you’re unable to send a physical card or need to express your condolences quickly.
Q: What if I don’t hear back from the recipient? A: Don’t take it personally. They are likely overwhelmed with grief and may not have the capacity to respond to every message. Your gesture of support is still appreciated.
Q: How long after the death should I send a condolence message? A: It’s best to send your message within a few weeks of the death. However, even a late message is better than none at all.
Q: What should I avoid saying in a condolence message? A: Avoid clichés, offering unsolicited advice, or comparing their loss to your own experiences. Focus on expressing your sympathy and offering support.
